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When Growth Costs You Friendship (But Gives You Freedom)

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You’ve probably seen the phrase floating around:

“Promise me we’ll always be friends, no matter where life takes us…”

It sounds sweet.
Nostalgic.
Safe.

But if you’re someone who is deeply committed to growth, to obedience, and to the call of God on your life…
You already know—that promise isn’t always true.

Because growth requires separation.
And not everyone can go where God is taking you.

Some people will love you…

But they’ll no longer understand how you think.

Some will try to keep up…
But the fire on your life will burn too hot.

Some will say, “I’m with you to the end…”
But the moment it gets uncomfortable, they’ll quietly back away.

Not because they’re bad.
But because they’re not built for the battle you're entering—or the anointing you’re carrying.

Growth Changes the Dynamic

Here’s what I’ve learned:

People want the fruit of your life… but not the fire that grew it.
They want the breakthrough, but not the surrender it took to get there.
They love you when you’re familiar—but struggle when you become free.

And you can’t let that stop you.

Because at the end of the day—

You still gotta go.

You Weren’t Meant to Stay Small

God didn’t call you to:

Stay behind to make others feel better
Dim your light to keep the peace
Babysit other people’s comfort

He called you to carry His fire.
To move mountains.
To lead boldly.

And yes… it will cost you some friendships.
Yes, you’ll grieve.
Yes, there will be lonely moments.
And it might break your heart a little.

But hear this:

You were not created to stay stuck so others don’t feel left behind.
You were created to go further, to lead louder, and to become who God has called you to be.